Pros & Cons — Understanding the Real Picture
A structured way to map what you’re actually weighing — so your values, not just your fears, guide your choice.
List the pros and cons of both options — continuing AND changing. Score each item 1–5. Use H (heart) or P (practical).
Try an example scenario
Career changeRelationship decisionMoving / relocatingStarting therapyHow are you approaching this?
Tip: Start with Section A — the familiar choice you already know how to make.
What decision are you weighing?
Describe it briefly in your own words
A Pros of continuing
What’s working? What would you lose?
ItemWhoWeight
Average weight—
B Cons of continuing
What’s not working?
ItemWhoWeight
Average weight—
C Pros of changing
What’s pulling you forward?
ItemWhoWeight
Average weight—
D Cons of changing
What are you afraid of?
ItemWhoWeight
Average weight—
Score Overview
Higher average = more weight in that direction
A — Pros of continuing
B — Cons of continuing
C — Pros of changing
D — Cons of changing
What the scores suggest
Add items and scores above — your insight will appear here.
Reflection questions
What surprised you most as you filled this out?
Which items carry the most emotional weight, even if the score is low?
What do you wish someone else could decide for you?
What would you tell a friend in your exact situation?
There is no right answer — only the one most honest to who you are.